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Quinoa Mock Candy Bars


My kids LOVE these!  They cannot believe they get to eat them for breakfast!  Plus, it is so much better than sugary cereal or pop tarts.  They also eat these for after school snacks and as a dessert.  These little bars are full of fiber, protein, and other nutritious stuff.  Here are the details:

Quinoa Mock Candy Bars

1/2 cup coconut oil

1 1/2 cups cooked quinoa

1 cup old fashioned oats (you could use quick oats)

2 TBS wheat germ

2 TBS flaxseed meal

1 cup peanut butter

1/4 cup honey

1/4 cup chocolate chips

Melt coconut oil in microwave for about 15 seconds.  Add rest of ingredients.  Mix well.  Grease a 9×13 casserole dish (or line with parchment paper).  Pour mixture into dish.  Freeze for at least 30 minutes.  Cut into squares.  Store in zip lock bag in freezer.


10 Things I Want my Kids to Know

1.  There is no good or bad until you put a label on it as such.  Making a bad grade in 5th grade might teach you a new study habit that changes the way you study and helps you learn faster.  Having your heart broken gives you the opportunity to meet someone better suited for you.  Losing a competition teaches strength and perseverance. 

2.  When you know better, you do better.  That is a quote from Maya Angelou.  It is so true.  You may argue that your friend knew that stealing was wrong and still did it.  But knowing the rule doesn’t mean you inherently get it.  When your heart and spirit realize there is a better way, it will change.  You have to understand it deep in your soul and consciousness.  So when someone hurts you, realize they really don’t know better.  Don’t let them continue to hurt you, but try to forgive them.  Maybe hurting you will teach them that they don’t want to hurt people anymore.  In the same way, don’t be too hard on yourself when you make a mistake.  You made that mistake so you can learn from it.  Forgive yourself, learn, move on.

3.  Mistakes and failures are learning tools to love and success.  You cannot live a truly dynamic life without both mistakes and failures.  If you don’t have any failures, you’re not taking enough risks.  “Failure’s pain subsides faster than the ache of regret.”  (Anonymous)  “The fastest way to succeed is to double your rate of failure.”  Thomas Watson

4.  You are in charge of your own happiness.  Not your parents.  Not your teachers.  Not your friends.  Knowing this brings true freedom.  When you realize you can be happy in spite of disappointments, anger, and frustration, you take yourself out of a self-imposed prison.  You can stop blaming people, circumstances, and things for making you unhappy.  You can live in the present instead of putting off happiness until you achieve something, get something, become something.  Happiness is for you to have anytime, anywhere you choose it.

5.  Forgiving others is for you.  Holding on to anger only hurts you.  Let go of it and focus on other things.  When you let anger go, you free yourself of those negative feelings.  Realize that you have total control of the situation.  By forgiving fully in your heart, spirit, and mind, you are able to release the hurt and pain.  You free yourself.  When you hold on to anger, you allow someone lese to control you and your happiness.  “Forgiveness is the experience does not change the past, but it changes the present.” Frederic Loskin

6.  Every day is a new day.  Every day is a chance to start over.  Change your story.  Change your life.  Don’t get bogged down in yesterday.  It can’t be changed, but today is yours to do with as you choose.  Be grateful for the opportunity.  It can be as exciting as you make it.  There are some circumstances that can’t be changed overnight.  But you can still find things to be grateful for.  Change the things you can.  Pray for guidance on things you need help with.  Relax.  Know that you will be OK.  God has a plan. Be patient. 

7.  Gratitude is the key to happiness.  Happiness doesn’t just happen.  You work for it.  Don’t wait for it to just happen to you.  Find all the things to be grateful for in you life.  Your health, your family, food to eat, a nice bed to sleep in.  There are so many things to choose from.  Practice replacing negative thoughts with thoughts of gratitude.  It takes practice and patience.  Don’t be hard on yourself when you struggle with this.  Keep practicing.  You, and you alone, are in charge of your happiness.  Take responsibility for it.  Be grateful for everything you have.  There are many people who would love to have what you have and be who you are.  The more you practice being grateful, the easier it becomes to find things to be grateful for.

8.  We are put on this earth to fulfill our purpose and calling.  We are not here to work at an unfulfilling job just so we can pay the bills.  We are not here to live a mediocre life.  Sometimes it is hard to figure our what that purpose is.  Think about the things you love to do, your hobbies, activities you love to do.  What could you spend your day doing and not feel like it was work?  Make it a priority to figure it out.  If you are not sure, pick something you love to do and do more of it.  Learn more about it.  See if it fits your calling.  If not, try something else.  Keep trying.  Never give up.  If you go down the wrong path, take a new path.  Every mistake is a learning experience.  Keep putting yourself out there.   You are capable of more than you can imagine. 

9.  You don’t have to be a victim.  You can choose a life that is right for you or you can spend your life blaming circumstances, people, and misfortunes for why your life isn’t what you want it to be.  Choose to take ownership of your life.  Spend your time enjoying your life-flaws and all.  Fix what needs fixing.  Love the rest.  Don’t play the blame game.  There is no benefit to blaming things or people outside of yourself.  Yes, someone may have done you wrong.  Yes, misfortunes occur that can change your trajectory.  But blaming those things and becoming a victim in the story you tell yourself will only make you feel helpless and angry.  Accept what is.  Learn what you can from it.  There is a lesson in every experience.  Make your own happiness.

10.  Have faith.  Know that God has a plan for you.  You may be sad and feel like you are in a hopeless situation.  You are not.  Keep getting up and keep trying.  Believe that great things are in store for you.  They are.  Take time to visualize everything you want in life.  What would it look like?  Feel like?  Imagine every detail and imagine it often.  Don’t give up.  You may have many times of doubt, but stay the course.  Have faith that it will all work out.  Because it will.  I have faith in you.  The Universe has faith in you.  God has faith in you.  The desires you have in your heart are put there for a reason.  God wouldn’t put them in your heart if you could not fulfill them.  Dream big.  Visualize a lot.  And have faith.  You are stronger than you can imagine.

The Circus….and I mean that literally

I went to the circus today.  It’s the first time I’ve ever been.  I think I know why.  First, why isn’t it illegal to have wild animals caged up and made to perform degrading acts in front of an audience of tamed animals…you know…us humans?  Maybe I’m wrong.  Maybe there is some reason that those tigers and elephants are better off in the circus than wherever they were before, but I guess I just can’t see it.  Anyway, I didn’t like the animal acts, but my kids thought it was cool. 

Secondly, who thought up the idea of catapulting themselves into the air to do a few twirls before landing in a chair on a stick?  OK, it was entertaining, but still sorta weird.  But I did have a few laughs over the men in sparkly tights and the women that were dressed like majorettes from the 80’s….big, teased hair and sequined bathing suits that showed their butt cheeks.  I’m probably just jealous.  I am old and I can’t show off my butt cheeks anymore.  Or ever. 

We did love the popcorn, cotton candy, pretzels, and snow cones.  Yes, we ate all of that.  Don’t judge me.  But the best part about the circus was spending the day with my three wonderful and rowdy butterbeans and my very sweet mother-in-law.  I smiled every time they smiled.  I cheered when they cheered.  It was a day of making memories.  Who could ask for more?


Quirky.  I like that word.  Kinda means you’re odd but in a kinder way.  I’d describe myself as quirky.  Some of my friends might just describe me as odd.  Anyway, I think quirky is good.  I grew up with a dad who tied coconuts to our pine trees and told everyone they were coconut trees.  He also made a mail box out of tire rims.  We kept that mailbox for many years until we finally got a notice from the post office stating that it did not meet standards.  Funny it took over ten years for them to realize it.  My dad also had a pick ‘um up truck that had “ouch” painted on the side.  My mom spouted out, “Doesn’t that beat a goose a flyin” many a day.  So, I guess I have a right to be quirky.  It was a gift from my childhood.

It gets me to thinking about what my kids will remember about their childhood.  Will they remember me screaming about backpacks and lunches and shoes or will they remember our long hikes in the woods and bike rides?  Will they remember my tirade about getting rid of their toys because they won’t clean up their playroom or will they remember me singing them back to sleep after a nightmare?  Of course, I hope it’s the latter.  I hope there are enough good memories to drown out the times I just didn’t cut it as being a good mom.  I have and will make my share of mistakes.  But one thing is for sure….no one will ever love them more or try harder to make them good people than me.  So I hope they remember their childhood as a good time with lots of love.  Or maybe they’ll just remember their childhood as being quirky.  Which is OK too.